What is Power

Through some confusing interactions with predominantly male beings, I have come to the following realization.

To have power is to be able to trample over others’ desires. To use power is to trample over others’ desires.

Oftentimes, I gave them the power by choosing to have convenience that depend on their creations (software). Rarely, I had my desires trampled over by someone and chose to still give them power, because the convenience their stuff provide made the transaction worth it.

A direct result from this realization is that I will pay more attention to the social aspect of large projects before using them. And this judgement of mine, by definition, is discrimination.

I wonder if I can have freedom and convenience by not depending on others. Maybe that’s why individualism is so attractive.